Is Your Marriage Problem Severe Enough To Warrant Getting A Divorce?

Having a marriage problem can be agonizing especially if you're trying to do all you can to make your marriage work. Depending on how your marriage was prior to thinking that you had a marriage problem, you could be in for a hurtful time if you don't take a step back and look at your marriage problem from a "helicopter" viewpoint. To do that, you're going to need to try to limit your emotional stake in the situation which admittedly is a difficult thing to do.

The first step in getting over a marriage problem is to remember that you aren't alone, lots of couples have marriage problems that stem from all kinds of different types of behavior.

Here's a partial list of marriage problems that you may or may not be experiencing:

Marriage problem #1:

Lack of sexual intimacy - a serious issue that you must work through in my opinion if your going to work it out.

Marriage problem #2:

Exploding during an argument, getting too emotional and letting your temper get the best of you - you need to learn to work together and you can't do that if one of you is getting too heated.

Marriage problem #3:

Being selfish - eventually this will catch up to you. You should always think of your partner when you think of yourself.

Marriage problem #4:

Being dishonest - another serious issue. If you cannot be 100% honest and open with your mate, you're marriage is most likely doomed or at the very least unhappy.

Marriage problem #5:

Teasing too much - generally the husband does this but it could go either way. If there's a little bit of truth to the teasing or there's a greater marriage problem that incites the teasing, you could be in for a long road to recovery together. Chances are that you'll have a lot more work to do to correct this marriage problem.

Marriage problem #6:

Not respecting your spouse - this marriage problem can result in all types of other problems. If you are experiencing this you must get to the root of this and figure out why the disrespect is present. If you aren't getting the every day respect that you deserve, make it a priority to not let this go on another day.

Marriage problem #7:

Not being attentive to your spouse or not listening to your spouse - men are usually guilty of this marriage problem but is isn't exclusive to the weaker gender by any means. Really listening doesn't mean obeying, it means understanding what's important to your spouse and acting accordingly.

Obviously there are many other things that could be labeled a "marriage problem", you have to decide what those are as they pertain to your situation.

So, how do you figure out if a marriage problem or problems are severe enough to warrant a divorce?

You should first examine what your marriage problem actually is and decide if it is exclusively a problem for you or if it is something that you both consider to be a marriage problem. If you are the only one who sees the said action as a marriage problem, you have to decide whether or not that specific marriage problem is being caused by you or whether it is truly a problem brought on by your spouse. If the marriage problem is unique to you, seek some help from a counselor and do yourself the courtesy of trying to correct the problem before you believe that you need to run right out and get a divorce. You'll be a better person for it because you will have fixed something within yourself.

However, if you truly believe that the marriage problem is caused and prolonged by your spouse, sit down with yourself first and examine what you believe to be the root cause of the behavior that creates the marriage problem. Make sure that you are being logical when you identify the behavior that you feel is causing the marriage problem and try to recall if the traits or behavior that you've identified in your spouse are 'fixable' in your mind...assuming of course, that your spouse will agree that you are right.

Next, approach your spouse with the information that you've reflected on and try to talk through the cause of the marriage problem. Hopefully your spouse will be open to constructive discussion regarding the marriage problem so you can work through it together. If you cannot do work on the marriage problem together, seek the help of a mediator or marriage counselor so you can actually talk out the marriage problem logically. If you cannot work it out after counseling, other divorce advice, deep self-reflection and discussions, you should be able to decide whether or not the marriage problem warrants a divorce or not.

Of course, no one can decide this but you.

Karl Augustine

"A Practical Guide To Deciding Whether Or Not To Get A Divorce"

An eBook recommended by marriage counselors and relationship coaches to their clients.

Get FREE Chapters!

Marriage Problem

In The News:


International Business Times

Beyoncé, Jay Z Divorce Rumors: Rapper Planning Vacation To Save ...
International Business Times
Jay Z and Beyoncé attend the 2014 NBA Playoffs between the Brooklyn Nets and the Toronto Raptors at Barclays Center on May 2. Reuters. Beyoncé and Jay Z are reportedly on the verge of a split, but the rapper is desperate to try and salvage their ...
Beyonce & Jay Z: It's Great That You Want To…Hollywood Life
What Split? Beyonce and Jay Z Pack On PDA Amid Divorce RumorsCelebuzz
Beyoncé, Jay Z Divorce Rumors True? Instagram Photo Of Blue Ivy Presents ...Hollywood Take
Classicalite -Design & Trend -Celebrity Dirty Laundry
all 109 news articles »

Celebrity Dirty Laundry

Beyonce Responds to Divorce Rumors the Only Way She Can
The Stir
The summer hasn't been kind to Beyonce and Jay Z. Sure, they launched their sold out On the Run tour, but their image has certainly taken a beating. In case you have been living in a space station on Jupiter, I am talking about all those cheating and ...
Beyonce Posts Photo Of Jay Z And Blue Ivy Following Divorce RumorsHuffington Post
Beyonce & Jay Z's Marriage Troubles Because…Hollywood Life
Are Beyonce And Jay Z On The Verge Of Divorce?Gothamist
MTV.com -Bustle -Celebrity Dirty Laundry
all 467 news articles »

Beyonce & Jay Z Divorcing? -- The Secret Pact They've Made
Hollywood Life
It's been reported that Beyonce, 32, and Jay Z, 44, will divorce when their On The Run tour ends in September. But we now know that the fate of Bey and Jay's marriage revolves around a secret “pact” that they've made about their 2-year-old daughter ...


Celebrity Dirty Laundry

Nicole Kidman Divorce: Keith Urban Can't Fake Happy Marriage After ...
Celebrity Dirty Laundry
Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban divorce rumors don't stop. The couple have done everything in their power to salvage their marriage, including attending counseling and spicing up their sex life. Unfortunately, there's only so much they can do when the ...
Nicole Kidman, Keith Urban Divorce: Actress Wants Another Movie Star?The Inquisitr

all 2 news articles »

Quartz

separation anxiety Everything we think we know about being the child of ...
Quartz
It is common knowledge that research studies have demonstrated the harmful effects of divorce on children. Surprisingly, that common knowledge turns out not to be supported by evidence. Although proponents of marriage would like us to believe that kids ...


Considering a second divorce
Boston Globe
Q. I've been in this second marriage for five years. When I first met my husband I was married, but because I was so physically attracted to this other man (and there were other problems in my first marriage), I divorced and ended up marrying him.


azcentral.com

Katy Perry Says Divorce From Russell Brand Was 'The Death Of A Dream'
Huffington Post
In the Aug. 14 issue of Rolling Stone, the 29-year-old singer opens up about the end of her 14-month marriage to Brand, before admitting it's not exactly her favorite topic of discussion. "[Divorce] was emotionally traumatic for me. It was the death of ...
Katy Perry talks divorce: 'It was the death of a dream'azcentral.com
Katy Perry Opens Up About Her Divorce From Russell Brand, Having Children ...Fashion & Style
Katy Perry on her divorce: 'It was the death of a dream'heatworld
TVNZ
all 324 news articles »

Yahoo Health

Why It's So Hard for Adults When Their Parents Divorce
Yahoo Health
Most people are familiar with today's depressing divorce stats: Up to 50 percent of U.S. marriages fail, and about half of all children will have to deal with that trauma before their 18th birthday. What many people don't realize, however, is that ...


Philly.com

Daughters do not cause divorce
Philly.com
(Inside Science) -- Good news for families: fewer fathers than previously thought may be divorcing wives because they give birth only to daughters. Back in 2003, an economist named Gordon B. Dahl described a trend hidden in divorce data. He found that ...


Tennessee's gay couples find divorce as complicated as marriage
The Tennessean
The Attorney General's office also has intervened in the East Tennessee case of two men seeking a divorce. Frederick Borman is asking a Roane County judge to recognize his Iowa marriage only for the narrow purpose of ending it, presenting some of the ...

Google News

Why Men Wont Commit To Marriage

A common reason why men wont commit could be due... Read More

5 Ways To Ensure You Will Have a Happy Life After Divorce

Life after divorce is something that most people who are... Read More

Deciding on Divorce: How to Know You are Making the Right Choice

It's a well known fact that in this day and... Read More

How Thinking About An Uncontested Divorce Figures Into Your Decision About Divorce

An uncontested divorce is the most common type of divorce.... Read More

Healing Dysfunctional Families

In a recent article entitled "Some Evidence On How We... Read More

Divorce Decision: Things To Consider When Making A Decision About Divorce

When making a divorce decision, there are quite a few... Read More

Divorce--How the Legal System Works Against You

If there were no legal system, no lawyers and no... Read More

Child Support: 5 Key Things Every Parent Should Know

There is no magic solution to getting issues surrounding child... Read More

Top 5 To Dos Before Saying ?I Do?

1. DO allow yourself enough time to make one of... Read More

The Heart Moves On: Using Ceremony to Mark the End of a Relationship

Divorce or the end of a long-term relationship is a... Read More

Extramarital Affair: Should You Get A Divorce Just Because One Of You Had An Extramarital Affair?

Having to deal with an extramarital affair can be a... Read More

Effects of Divorce on Children

When a couple decides their marriage is over, a tremendous... Read More

Divorce Roadmap: The Route Around the Legal System

Let's look at how a divorce case works so you... Read More

Hidden Divorce Costs

Divorce has become part of life in the 21st century.... Read More

Things To Consider When Making A Decision About Divorce

When making a divorce decision, there are quite a few... Read More

Steps Toward Divorce

When you're faced with the possibility of divorce it's important... Read More

Seven Sets of Documents You Need For Your Divorce

Even if you believe your case will ultimately be agreed... Read More

5 Things To Do Before You Even Think About Getting A Divorce

There are many steps to take to protect yourself in... Read More

Two Hearts Are Now One

It is fitting that I should write this story on... Read More

Surviving Life After Divorce

After divorce, the most important thing you can do is... Read More

There Is Life After Divorce

A married woman becomes a single woman for one of... Read More

Divorce: Secrets To Coping With A Divorce Announcement

During a wedding ceremony, when people are joined together in... Read More

Choosing Your Divorce Method

The biggest mistake that people make when getting divorced is... Read More

Divorce--The Five Obstacles to Agreement

This article and my articles "Overcoming Obstacles to Agreement" and... Read More

Spousal Emotional Abuse During Divorce--What You Can Do

Is your spouse violent, abusive, harassing? In cases of harassment... Read More