Is Your Life Ready For Groundhog Day?

In the hit comedic movie Groundhog Day, Bill Murray's character, Phil Conners, is caught up in a time warp, doomed to live the same day over and over until he gets it right. Hilarious as the ensuing mayhem may be on the big screen, it is a poignant and not too thinly veiled metaphor for how most of us live our own lives - mindlessly occupied with our own issues and concerns, stumbling through life (often over the toes of others) with little if any conscious direction or critical thought. In the end, we keep on running into the same scenarios and problems over and over - not because we're caught in a time loop, but because we're caught in a life-loop. We haven't made the grade, so we can't graduate beyond our current situation.

One of the solutions to this is to create what I call a "Groundhog Day" Proof Life. Think about it for a second. What if today (or any day lately) was the only day you got to live. Would that be okay with you, or would it be a wailing tragedy? There are 5 steps to creating a GD Proof Life, and I've outlined them below.

1. Quit playing "Someday My Prince Will Come" on your internal radio station.

Whether it's the perfect mate, the perfect job or the perfect life, too many of us spend so much time in the imaginary future that we let our present fall to pieces around our feet. Why bother cleaning, when you don't really belong where you currently live? How can you possibly have a great night out when your ideal date hasn't shown up at the door? Who cares if you blow off your job - it's not like you care, or anything. Stop it! As John Lennon sang, life is what happens when your making other plans. Don't waste the life you have fantasizing about a life that doesn't exist.

2. Get your house in order.

Now that you're back in the present, get your act together and make what you do have work as well as it can for you. Design environments that support and uplift you by ditching anything that doesn't and only replacing it when you've found something you love.

3. Pursue your dreams, not your "purpose."

Yes, we all have a purpose in life (more than one, probably). But part of the game is that we don't get to know what that purpose is, and spending all our time trying to find it often ends up taking the place of actually living our lives in a way that would allow us to serve this purpose if we did. We all know people who went off to "find themselves" and never came back - don't be one of them. The best way to find yourself, and your purpose, is to live a life of passion and authenticity and let them find you.

4. Quality, not quantity.

Why live life at half-mast? You don't get bonus points for choosing lots of cheap, nasty fast food instead of a moderate amount of gourmet cuisine, and neither does it gain you anything to fill your closet to overflowing with ill-fitting and poorly matched clothes instead of holding out for a modest assortment of exquisite ensembles. Greed and envy are not what I'm advocating, but life's to short to sit on lumpy furniture and eat bad food.

5. Make it matter - all day, every day.

Live life as if you might actually have to account for it someday. Is it really so important to get that promotion that you're willing to hurt a friend, bend the rules (even though it makes problems for everyone else down the line), or claim credit for stuff you didn't do? Would it really take that long to bring a hot meal to a shut-in down the road - even if you do have to miss the opening sequence of your favorite television show? Do you really need one more piece of jewelry that you'll never wear, when the money could go so much farther at the community center downtown that provides valuable resources to those in need? As they say, what goes around comes around. What do you have coming?

Imagine today happening over and over and over again for the rest of your life (or at least until you got it right). What would you need to clear out, clean up and bring into your life to make that an intriguing prospect, rather than a chilling thought? Don't wait for tomorrow to get started. In real life, we only get one chance to get it right.

(c) Soni Pitts

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Soni Pitts is the Chief Visionary Butt-Kicker of SoniPitts.Com. She specializes in helping others reclaim "soul proprietorship" in their lives and to begin living the life their Creator always intended for them.

She is the author of the free e-book "50 Ways To Reach Your Goals" and over 100 self-help and inspirational articles, as well as other products and resources designed to facilitate this process of personal growth and spiritual development.

In The News:


One Powerful Way To Control Your Leadership Reputation
Forbes
But what takes years to build can be lost in a moment's notice. Social media is a perfect example of this; when leaders abuse the privileges and unique opportunities that social media channels offer to amplify their leadership value proposition, they ...


Red Wings opponent Zdeno Chara stands tall in leadership as well as stature
The Detroit News
For his work on and off the ice, his leadership and character, Chara stands above many players — and not solely because of his 6-foot-9 frame. Red Wings forwards Tomas Jurco and Tomas Tatar saw those leadership qualities up close in Sochi during the ...

and more »

Women in leadership roles still scarce; collaboration, mentoring and ...
Pacific Business News (Honolulu) (blog)
Sharon Thom, senior vice president and Hawaii area manager for Kiewit Building Group Inc., has taken on a top leadership role at the construction company while juggling motherhood. Jenna Blakely: Reporter- Pacific Business News: Email | Twitter.


Rise & Shine: Turnover at Tweed continues amid leadership transition
Chalkbeat New York
Turnover at Tweed. Top brass in the city's education department are leaving as changes in new leadership asserts its vision for public schools. Chalkbeat. Admitted. James Merriman writes that schools most responsible for skimming aren't charter schools ...


MLB.com

Matheny talks leadership at US Department of State
MLB.com
WASHINGTON -- Manager Mike Matheny accepted an invitation to speak to the Bureau of Consular Affairs at the U.S. Department of State on Friday as part of its speaker series to promote the development and practice of leadership. Matheny spent about an ...

and more »

Division I Leadership Council recommends transfer policy change
NCAA.com
Some student-athletes who transfer schools as a result of difficult life or family circumstances should be allowed an extra year to complete their eligibility, according to a recommendation from the Division I Leadership Council. Council members ...

and more »

Roll Call (blog)

Citing Ukraine Crisis, GOP Looks to Cut Open World Leadership Center
Roll Call (blog)
In response to the ongoing crisis in Ukraine, House Republicans want to slash funding for the Open World Leadership Center, an international exchange program established nearly 15 years ago to build relationships with post-Soviet countries. For fiscal ...

and more »

Rutgers spring practice: Players expect stronger leadership to pay dividends ...
The Star-Ledger
"I think we've got a bigger leadership group than we've had in the past," Rutgers coach Kyle Flood said. "I think they did an excellent job of leading as a group (in winter workouts). Guys like David Milewski and Darius Hamilton jump out immediately.".

and more »

FGCU women earmark leadership roles for Cobb, Knight
The News-Press
Karl Smesko, the Florida Gulf Coast University girls basketball head coach, congratulates senior Sarah Hansen for an outstanding season, at the 2014 FGCU Women's Basketball Banquet, Thursday at the Crowne Plaza in Fort Myers. (Photo: Marc ...


Center For American Progress

Women in Leadership: An Interview with Ella Bell
Center For American Progress
On March 7, the Center for American Progress inaugurated its women's leadership series with “Blind Spots and Double Binds: The Leadership Issues for Women of Color.” Afterward, CAP Senior Fellow Judith Warner interviewed panelist Ella L.J. Edmondson ...

Google News

The Leader Within

Each and every one of you has hidden deep inside... Read More

On Being A Born Leader

"Leaders are born, not made." Right? Let me ask you... Read More

What Does Exceptional Business Success Require of Us?

To excel in business we need conscious command of all... Read More

Premature Articulation

Ask anyone about what makes a good leader and they... Read More

Make The Elephant Jump -- Leading With A Kind Heart

Leadership is not about getting people to do what they... Read More

Supervisor Training: Helpful Tips to Lead Your Pack

A new supervisor is hired to anchor a gardening project... Read More

Father Knows Best

A good strong example of a family leader would be... Read More

The Four Laws Of Leadership (Part One)

Leadership is motivational or it's stumbling in the dark. After... Read More

The Defining Moment: The Straw That Stirs The Drink Of Motivational Leadership (Part Two)

In Part One, I described the importance of establishing deep,... Read More

Be the Samurai Sword

Relationships are constantly facing crisis. Everywhere we look people are... Read More

Being an Extraordinary Leader Through Tough and Challenging Times

Tough and challenging times will surely come. That is a... Read More

3 Cs Leaders Must Communicate!

"Of every noble work the silent part is best, Of... Read More

Leadership for the Successful Entrepreneur!

Why talk about leadership?"Leadership is important whether you a leader... Read More

Leadership Training Seminar - What Makes A Great Leader?

At one point or another, we have all been either... Read More

10 Smart Ways Leaders Can Bring Out the Best in Others

You are a leader. Everyone is a leader. It doesn't... Read More

Leadership Skills - 10 Ways to Beef Up

10 Ways to Beef Up Your Leadership SkillsHave you ever... Read More

3 Ds For Leadership Action... Dedicate, Direct, Dialogue!

"...And winged hope, with heart of fire, To gain the... Read More

Leadership For Deep Results: Without Them Are You Wasting Your Leadership And Your Life? (Part One)

I've challenged all leaders I have worked with during the... Read More

Top Skills Of Extraordinary Leaders

1. Good Communicator. Extraordinary Leaders are those who can take... Read More

Leadership Is Action?Not Position!

People respond to good leadership! Period! It is in all... Read More

Why You Should Ignore This Advice

Doesn't make too much sense does it? Am I really... Read More

Who Needs Heroes?

When we were talking the other day we started to... Read More

The Tao of Leadership

There can be no doubt that the ancient author of... Read More

Secrets of Creating Success with Ease

Do you ever strum your fingers on the desk top... Read More

Wisdom From The Rock

He grew up in Brooklyn, the son of an ex-con... Read More