Choosing a Wedding Date ?- When You?re Feeling Indecisive

He ? or she ? asked, and you answered in the affirmative! Now's the time to bask in the romance, and enjoy the first phase of your new life together. But soon, you'll need a response for that timeless question: "when's the wedding?"

For some couples, it's easy ? they know just when they want to tie the knot. For others, it's less clear. After all, you have a lot of options. Even more than you might think, since it's really not necessary to get married on a Saturday. Friday and Sunday afternoons are good choices too, and less expensive.

So if you're looking at the calendar ahead and seeing a hundred alternatives, all about equally attractive, here's how to narrow them down.

Must-have venues

No matter how flexible you are, there's bound to be things you won't compromise on. Maybe it's a particular church, temple and officiant for your ceremony. Maybe it's a special venue for your reception. And there are certain indispensable guests, like your parents.

Luckily for you, putting just these three things together is bound to reduce your choices. Once you call on the church/temple, ceremony venue or reception hall, you'll probably find many dates already filled, especially if you call less than nine months in advance. Good. That makes things easier!

Must-have ambiance

But maybe you don't have a must-have venue. Maybe you just have an image in your mind of the perfect wedding. Maybe it involves falling snow, ermine mantles, a horse-drawn carriage, and a crackling fireplace. Maybe it involves stacks of shiny apples, heaped pumpkins, a scattering of leaves and the scent of cranberry-apple cider. Or delicate pastels, gossamer pashminas for the bridesmaids, and a dove release. In this case your time of year is set: all that's needed it to work out the logistics of venue, local climate and the availability of your most important guests.

Must-have flowers

Some people know exactly what floral arrangements they want at their wedding. Flowers are such an enormous part of the wedding budget, if particular ones are important to you, you might want to arrange your date around them. Unless you're an heiress, for example, you'll want to avoid buying roses for your Valentine's Day wedding. On the other hand, December and January are great months to buy calla lilies. To study flower availability charts, Google for "flower availability by month."

Must-have honeymoons

If you have your heart set on a certain destination, you'll probably find the honeymoon helps set the date for you. Chances are, some dates are good for travel but others involve the risk of hurricanes or lengthy rains.

Limited budget

For now, winter is the slow wedding season. So it's often (though not always) true that you can get a break on expenses by having your ceremony during the holidays. Brides often find that by marrying near Christmas, they benefit from already-decorated churches and don't need to add much themselves. Plus, if they shop the year before, they can stock up on decorations at incredibly discounted post-holiday sales. The trick is to avoid competing with office parties for reception venues and limousines (New Year's Eve is particularly competitive).

Another factor to consider, besides the possibility of dismal weather, is how many guests are due from out-of-town. Flying in for a holiday wedding can strain any family's Christmas budget, plus airlines often charge extra during the season.

If you need to keep expenses in check but want to avoid winter, make sure you steer clear of proms, graduation, "parents' day" at colleges, major sporting events and other local events.

"Life" dates

You might find your own life gives more guidance than you think. Are you a teacher, with set vacation times? Are you graduating from college or ending an internship? Are many of your relations students, available only during the holidays or the summer? If you're working, is your vacation time limited to a certain time of year? If many guests are flying in, will Labor Day weekend or Memorial Day weekend give them time to get acclimated and enjoy your big day? If none of these apply, is there a date that has special significance to you as a couple, such as the date you first met or first dated?

"Auspicious" dates

Many people find little extra jolt of comfort in picking auspicious days for their wedding. In India and China, this is standard practice. But even in the West, people often find it reassuring to pick numbers or dates with personal meaning. A Chinese custom is to select a date with as many even numbers as possible (such as 2-18-2006). The Irish believed that New Year's Eve is luckiest for weddings. The Romans (and consequently, modern westerners) favored the month of June. For Victorians, it was lucky to marry on the groom's birthday.

Blake Kritzberg is editor at "" Stop by for wedding favor ideas, Save-the-Date eCards, free wedding screensaver, free wedding templates and Bridezilla's weekly adventures at:

In The News:


Scott Walker: I've attended a gay wedding reception
"I believe the definition of the institution of marriage should be between one man and one woman," Rubio said. "States have always regulated marriage and if a state wants to have a different definition, you should petition the state legislature and ...
First Draft | At Candidate Forum, Walker Discusses Same-Sex Marriage of a ...New York Times
Anti-gay marriage Governor Scott Walker: I've been to a same-sex weddingPinkNews
Walker: I've attended a gay wedding receptionWLKY Louisville
all 52 news articles »

National Review Online

Marco Rubio would attend a gay wedding. Welcome to the GOP's next (small ...
Washington Post (blog)
The Republican Party is still slowly warming to the idea of gay marriage -- very slowly. The latest evolution: Presidential candidate and Sen. Marco Rubio (R-Fla.) said in an interview with Univision's Jorge Ramos on Wednesday that he would attend a ...
Why I, Unlike Senator Rubio, Would Not Attend...National Review Online
Rubio would attend a same-sex weddingThe Hill (blog)
Popping the question: Which GOP candidates would go to a gay wedding?Los Angeles Times
New York Daily News -CBS News -Fusion
all 114 news articles »

12 Unique Wedding Vows That Show What A Marriage Should Really Be About
Huffington Post
Marriage is changing, from who can get married (37 states now allow gay marriage!) to who actually ends up doing it. Only 26% of millennials are married, a sharp decrease from 36% of Generation X and 48% of baby boomers, according to the Pew Research ...

and more »


Wedding expo is Indiana's first for same-sex couples
Two wedding expos headed to the Indianapolis area will give couples like Hasty and Vallero a quick and simple way to make sure every dollar they spend goes to businesses that support their right to marry. The Grand Marriage Equality Wedding Event ...
Wedding expos will be Indiana's first for same-sex couplesChicago Tribune

all 25 news articles »

Slate Magazine (blog)

Knowing the Difference Between a Wedding and a Marriage: Marriage Requires ...
Slate Magazine (blog)
They simply said their restaurant wouldn't cater a same-sex wedding because of their religious beliefs. That their family business is the Memories Pizza Parlor of course led to much derision in some circles. What self-respecting homosexual is going to ...
Should Mom-and-Pops That Forgo Gay Weddings Be Destroyed?The Atlantic
Indiana pizza shop won't cater gay wedding, gets over $50K from supportersWashington Post
Pizza shop at centre of gay marriage row gets more than £500000 in donations
New York Daily News -Chicago Tribune -Huffington Post
all 1,047 news articles »


Get married online with Ikea
"Just one little technicality -- if your marriage is going to be legally binding, the bridal couple, the marriage officiator, and two witnesses need to be in the same room during the actual ceremony," Ikea wrote. It also noted that anyone can use the ...
I Planned A Free Online Wedding With IkeaCo.Design
IKEA launches Wedding Online for couples to marry while guests watch from ...Daily Mail
Tie the Knot Anywhere with IKEA's Virtual Wedding ServicePSFK (blog)
Digital Trends
all 42 news articles »

Marriage Success Tips: Why you should wear your wedding ring always
Pulse Nigeria
Your wedding ring serves as a reminder that you "belong to someone else." This insightful teaching will expose you to what it means to be accountable in marriage. Accountability and honesty is the key to having a relationship of integrity with your ...

The Inquisitr

Gay Wedding Lawsuit Prompts Iowa Business To Stop Offering Marriage Services
The Inquisitr
Gortz Haus Gallery, a flower shop, restaurant, and wedding venue in Grimes, Iowa, will no longer be offering marriage services. The Christian owners of the facility made the decision to stop offering wedding services after finding themselves embroiled ...
Christian Chapel Owners Refused to Host a Gay Wedding and the 'Hateful

all 2 news articles »

Daily Mail

Sultan of Brunei's son Prince Abdul Malik gets married in a sea of gold
Daily Mail
After the ceremony, there is expected to be a luxurious banquet in the palace's hall, which can accommodate up to 5,000 guests. The wedding is taking place over a period of 11 days, and started on Sunday, 5 April, with the royal marriage proposal ceremony.
Photos of the Most Tricked-Out Royal Wedding of the YearABC News

all 43 news articles »

Celebrity Dirty Laundry

Robert Pattinson and FKA Twigs: Marriage and Wedding Bogged Down by ...
Celebrity Dirty Laundry
Robert Pattinson and FKA Twigs are engaged, breaking the hearts of Twi-hards everywhere. Now a question arises about the couple signing a prenup before marriage and if FKA Twigs is willingto do so. The news of Robert Pattinson and FKA Twig's ...

and more »
Google News

The Charm of Homemade Wedding Favors

Homemade wedding favors come from a centuries old tradition of... Read More

Jewish Wedding Traditions - The Wedding Day in a Nutshell

Many of the Jewish wedding traditions are derived from ancient... Read More

How to Lower a Wedding Cake Price

I recall how Mrs. Ingridman taught me invaluable lessons on... Read More

Keeping A Marriage Romantic

My belief is that most relationship problems should be given... Read More

10 Common Wedding Reception Mistakes

Every bride wants a fairytale wedding. Therefore, this article is... Read More

Extreme Age Differences In Marriage Can Lead To Infidelity

"Extreme age differences between husband and wife may lead to... Read More

Choosing a Wedding Date ?- When You?re Feeling Indecisive

He ? or she ? asked, and you answered in... Read More

Exotic Island Wedding! Where Dreams Truly Come True in Paradise

As a travel professional considering an exotic island wedding was... Read More

11 Things to Remember in Planning Your Wedding

Every woman dreams of her own wedding. May it be... Read More

Mexico Honeymoon Vacations

Mexico, a country rich in arts and ancient cultures and... Read More

How To Pick The Perfect Wedding Dress

Perhaps the biggest worry of a bride-to-be, is picking out... Read More

What Can You Do To Make Your Reception a Success?

This is something that we've started to send to all... Read More

What Is A Destination Wedding Favor?

Have you heard of destination wedding favors? I haven't either,... Read More

How to Have a Sizzler of a Honeymoon! Article No. 8

To paraphrase a song, "Are you doing it more, but... Read More

Indian Astrology and Marriages

Astrology is considered to be the oldest of all sciences,... Read More

Business Partners & Marital Partners Will The Marriage Survive - Part I

With today's economy, and the layoffs occurring as a result... Read More

Want To Know More About Wedding Planners?

Today, Norm Goldman, Editor of Sketchandtravel and Bookpleasures is pleased... Read More

The Maid of Honor ? Remember, It?s All About the Bride!

The term and role "Maid of Honor" is sometimes confusing,... Read More

The Wide Range of Maui Wedding Ceremonies

Whatever your religious affiliation, or whatever you'd like to experience,... Read More

Prescription for a Happy Marriage

Prescription for a happy marriage: one cup of tea or... Read More

Las Vegas Helicopter Weddings

If you've always dreamed of flying in a helicopter, Las... Read More

Signature Frames - Your Guestbook and Wedding Frame Together At Last!

So you have been invited to a wedding. Whether you... Read More

Wedding Videography - When Getting it Right on the 1st Take Counts, Hire a Professional

Getting married is one of the most stressful events anyone... Read More

How To Survive Your Honeymoon

Once you've mortgaged the rest of your life for the... Read More

Your Wedding Flowers - What Are Your Choices?

Your wedding flowers usually tie to your wedding theme. When... Read More